Friday, January 18, 2019

So, about Matilda Jane....

...I have something to share.

As of last week, I've decided to end my time as a Trunk Keeper. Sigh! Bittersweet.

I will miss it. I will SO, SO badly miss it. I'll miss the excitement and thrill of trunk day. I will miss having insider info and sharing in the joy and fun that is MJC. I mean, sort of...because I'll still be stalking it ;)

And, for right now...Jane Parades aren't going anywhere!!

My upline has decided to stay on this season, and she's offered to bring the trunks to my neck of the woods so I can still see it all and shop away! Which means I still get to play with the pretty pretty clothes in my office and take pictures and make sizing notes for all of you - YAY!

I will be keeping an open show with her and you can still order through me, also! I'll just be your Jane instead of your trunk keeper - so make sure you choose me as your Jane at checkout!!!

I will get all the nitty gritty info from her and be the best TK-by proxy I can be! I know the ropes, so I'm still super-happy to help you get your MJ on.

But it was time to hang up my sales hat.

I needed more space in my house, more time in my days, and more money in my accounts. We are gearing up to move in the next year (WE HOPE!), my boys are getting bigger and need more focused attention, and I just felt ready to move on. My closet was practically screaming at me to stop. ;)

Also, for reality's sake, the cost of keeping a trunk was becoming unbearable. The price went up quite substantially, and it requires me to have a very large chunk of money set aside for months at a time. It's not a struggle for all TK's, I know, but my area is really tricky for MJ. Our seasons don't quite match up with MJ's target, and a very small community has even heard of Matilda Jane here in Buffalo. I tried, but for it to be successful in this area I really had to dedicate something akin to a full time job to it (and be real cozy with being sickeningly-salesy, which I'm not), and I just didn't have that to give.

So I gave it up instead.

I've dropped a lot this year, and I'm really excited for the space it makes for getting life organized, for regular practices like yoga and self-care, and for the amount of time I'd actually like to dedicate here to the blog. It feels super vibey.

I still want to talk about clothes! I still want to share my legit real-mom-style type fashion posts, and because my upline will be doing shows for me, you shouldn't have to miss my Jane Parades. So I truly, truly hope you'll stick around and it'll be like nothing much has changed! :)

Should we come up with like a special smoke signal for when my Matilda Jane posts happen? If you're signed up for my emails, I'll make sure to point it out in the subject in all caps so you know when to jog on over here. Buuut, you know, I'd love to have you all the time. ;)

I like to chat about clothes, my family, personal development, shopping (because duh), books, and basically anything that helps me in chasing a happy, beautiful life.

Stick around, pretty pretty please? <3

Two quick things before you go!

Earlier this week, Matilda Jane relaunched their updated Not-So-Basics line featuring coordinated layering pieces and neutral staples for all! There are two tee dresses (similar to the popular Navy Cruise Dress that I loooved this past summer) that you should definitely check out! Along with a whole new line up of dress and shirt extenders. Your order of $150 or more is 15% off through the 30th! Whoo!

AND...I have SO many samples to unleash on the world still! Like four full trunk boxes - yes, for real! I'm going to do a clearance sale in my VIP group this weekend (which is staying alive and converting to a MJC chat/share/BST group!) If you'd like to get in on that, click to join HERE. And then depending on what's left, I may post some things for sale here on the blog, so keep your eyes peeled!

Don't be sad! We still get to play dress up!! :)

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Tuesday, January 15, 2019

10 years a mother.

Life as a parent moves at an unrivaled pace.

I assume it's because the flurry of activity involved in raising little ones distracts us from the passage of time, but I'm just guessing. I often find myself shocked and disoriented by how quickly things happen, and I know that's already a "thing". Experienced parents always tell new ones to soak in every second because it goes by too fast. But even when you know that, it's impossible to bottle it up. They grow and change and evolve in microscopic pieces every single day. There's no stopping, pausing, or controlling it.

And I can hardly believe that I've been watching it unfold for a decade now.

Motherhood surprises you like that. There's all these milestones along that way that you don't expect or predict, and then they arrive and you're taken back by their intensity. Like the nights I cried as each one of my babies stopped nursing. Or the night Jake (my youngest) decided to take showers instead of baths and I knew that was the end of babyhood in our house.

I didn't know that as my first baby turned ten, I would be mourning the end of his littleness. On this very day, he rounds the curve to tweenhood, and then teenhood, and then adulthood. In less time than he's now been alive, he will be an adult. An ADULT! My sweet, chubby, 9lb 5oz baby boy with the fluffiest cheeks in history will be a man in the blink of an eye. It's heartbreaking.

And at the same time, it's an immensely prideful experience to watch your baby become himself.

I mean....we did it. His first formative decade - the years that he will look back on as his "childhood" were pretty darn successful. He is kind-hearted, funny, and a great student. He's creative, smart, empathetic, and thoughtful. We created traditions, made memories, and got to know each other in a deep way. And it all carries a sense of monumental importance. This past decade has been about growth, learning, loving, and creating - in ways I couldn't fathom before Luke. It's been more gorgeous than I could ever put into words.

But him. How was there never a him? How was there a part of my life that had no Luke in it? It doesn't seem possible. Because these 10 years defined me as much as they defined his brand new person-hood. I am more me than I've ever been, because of his existence.

And I know it's orchestrated that way. Our souls are in on it. It just makes me want to cry in its gorgeousness.

On this day ten years ago, I sat in a chilly hospital room in Charlotte, North Carolina. It was an uncharacteristically cold day, and snow fell outside our window (which almost never happened). Snuggled in my arms was a warm, peaceful little person that I had only just met. And on the hospital room TV was news coverage of the Miracle on the Hudson, which happened only hours after Luke came into the world. It was a day of miracles, to be sure.

And the thing I most remember thinking was, "There you are. Of course it's you."

I was always in awe of Luke - which I'm sure is typical of every first time parent. I'm not unique in thinking that it's absolutely wild that you can grow a person with your body and then they learn to do things like walk and talk and smile and laugh and show other people love. But it was (and still is) the great joy of my life to watch it unfold.

The days can be hard, and I can fall into phases of frustration and helplessness like any parent can attest to. But it doesn't change the fact that being a mom was my dream - truly, the only one. And Luke is the one who made it come true. It was a profound moment, the first time I saw his face. My whole life felt like it suddenly had a purpose. It all made sense in an instant.

I just have the hardest time believing that this intense moment is now a decade away, because it still feels like it was 5 minutes ago.

The proof sits across from me at dinner every night, though. He smiles his familiar smile (the one that looks like mine) as he tells me his grand ideas for a new game or fun thing we can do together. He speaks eloquently for his age (one of the compliments he gets most often from adults, second only to how sweet he is towards babies), which is further evidence that he is not just moments old.

But I think the most disorienting part of it all, is how it feels both like we've only just met and that we've known each other forever. Motherhood is funny like that.

This next decade with Luke will be a very, very different one from the last. A bittersweet one. A hard one. I can only hope it amazes me as much as the previous ten years have.

In a post I wrote about him a few birthdays ago, I said this about Luke and our relationship.

"Lukas was my first foray into motherhood and unconditional love. I made my mistakes with him as we learned how to do this life thing together, but the experience of mothering Luke is what gave me the gift of opening my heart to the little loves that have joined us since. He is so, so special to me. 
Luke's heart is a lot like mine. It is creative, dreamy, imaginative, anxious, hesitant, and big. He is fearful of the world in general, but has a fierce commitment to the people that never let him down. He is hard on himself, but he has big dreams. Mothering him is a mirror into myself, which makes our relationship incredibly special and challenging."

And I can only imagine what that will look like in these next ten years.

Today is a special day, for an incredibly special little guy, who has no clue how special he truly is - despite being told nearly every day of his life. And on this tenth anniversary of the miracle that is him, I'm thinking of what it means to be gifted the honor of watching a baby become a person that is capable of incredible things.

Happy, Happiest Birthday to my sweet Lukas James.

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Friday, January 11, 2019

A Year In Books ('18 & '19)

Now that we're good and into this new year, let's fiiinally get around to chatting about books. It's about time. ;)

So, yay, 2018 was another record-breaking year in books for me! 2017 held my previous record of 55 books, and this year I finished 57! I had so much fun with it. I read so many different types of books. I joined used book groups for trading. I did Booktube-a-thon for the first time and loved every second of it. It'll be tough to top a book year like this one was!

A year of books! There's something for everyone from genres of all types in my list of books from 2018 and for 2019! Come get your read on with me!! |

Here's what I read...

1. God Listens by Lorene Hanley Duquin (I'm in this book!!!)
2. Love, Life and the List by Kasie West
3. The Only Astrology Book You'll Ever Need by Joanna Martine Woolfolk
4. Meet & Work With Spirit Guides by Ted Andrews
5. Creating Money by Sanaya Roman
6. The Calm Center by Steve Taylor
7. Lily Dale by Christine Wicker
8. Lagom by Niki Brantmark
9. Outrageous Openness by Tasha Silver
10. Chasing Slow by Erin Loechner
11. Meet Cute by Jennifer L Armentrout
12. The Siren by Kiera Cass
13. Only Love Today by Rachel Macy Stafford
14. Second Chance Summer by Morgan Mattson
15. Secrets of my Hollywood Life by Jen Calonita
16. On Location by Jen Calonita
17. Family Affairs by Jen Calonita
18. The Royal We by Heather Cocks
19. The Husband's Secret by Liane Moriarty
20. Paparazzi Princess by Jen Calonita
21. Broadway Lights by Jen Calonita
22. There's No Place Like Home by Jen Calonita
23. Listen To Your Heart by Kasie West
24. Lucky In Love by Kasie West
25. The Runaway Princess by Hester Browne
26. Sum by David Eagleman
27. Save the Date by Morgan Matson
28. Love & Luck by Jenna Evans Welch
29. Along For the Ride by Sarah Dessen
30. A Book That Takes Its Time by Irene Smit
31. The Summer I Turned Pretty by Jenny Han
32. It's Not Summer Without You by Jenny Han
33. No Filter by Orlagh Collins
34. We'll Always Have Summer by Jenny Han
35. The Late Bloomer's Club by Louise Miller
36. Simon Vs the Homo Sapiens Agenda by Becky Albertalli
37. Love & Leftovers by Sarah Tregay
38. In Conclusion, Don't Worry About It by Lauren Graham
39. Very Good Lives by JK Rowling
40. Writer to Writer by Gail Carson Levine
41. We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngoze Adichie
42. And Every Morning The Way Home Gets Longer and Longer by Fredrik Bachman
43. Alex, Approximately by Jenn Bennett
44. My Diarrhe by Miranda Sings
45. Ramona Blue by Julie Murphy
46. Little Beach Street Bakery by Jenny Colgan
47. The Astonishing Color of After by Emily XR Pan
48. The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid
49. That Summer by Sarah Dessen
50. Summer People by Brian Groh
51. Endless Summer by Jennifer Echols
52. 99 Days by Katie Cotungo
53. The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society by Mary Ann Shaffer
54. Small Admissions by Amy Poeppel
55. Made for Love by Alyssa Nutting
56. Toil & Trouble by Tess Sharpe & Others
57. Lincoln In The Bardo by George Saunders

Favorite of the year...ah, so tough.

I LOVED the Jenny Han series. She's responsible for To All The Boys I've Loved Before so of course that was going to be good. I had many late nights reading those and I was hooooked.

I also really liked Evelyn Hugo, Guernsey, The Royal We, The Husband's Secret, Second Chance Summer was heartbreakingly beautiful, and Very Good Lives was brilliant. Briiiiiillliant.

Oh gosh and the small Fredrik Bachman I read. Gorgeous.

caught in my natural habitat this summer

Weirdest? Okay BY FAR....Made for Love. You will never look at dolphins the same again. The entire book I kept thinking, "what the hell is going on". It was like a bizarre project for a creative writing course. However, The Astonishing Color of After was also super weird (but beautiful), and Lincoln In the Bardo was also super strange (but surprisingly touching).

Worst? I'm going to say No Filter, because while making this list I could recall 0 things about it, lol. I actually had to go back and read the premise and I only vaguely remember it.

So, next year....I'm going to TRY to mostly read books off my shelves.

I have over 50 unread books in my house that desperately need me to get to them, so my goal is to read at least half of them. I did a pretty good job of picking things for my 2019 list that I already own - but I know that it will grow because I get so wooed by new releases and seeing what everyone is loving!

Books to read in 2019 |

Things always-always change - my "to read" list is never what I plan it to be (maybe 25% of it), but here's what I'm hoping to read in 2019.

1. Crazy Rich Asians by Kevin Kwan
2. When by Daniel Pink
3. Crimes of Grindelwald by JK Rowling
4. Every Breath by Nicholas Sparks
5. Outer Order Inner Calm by Gretchen Rubin
6. Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life by Karen Rauch Carter
7. Astrology Through a Psychic’s Eyes by Sylvia Browne
8. Past Lives Future Healing by Sylvia Browne
9. Book of Dreams by Sylvia Browne
10. The Brain by David Eagleman
11. How to Uncover Your Past Lives by Ted Andrews
12. The Magic Path of Intuition by Florence Scovel Shinn
13. The Law of Destiny and How to Find It by Florence Scovel Shinn
14. #famous by Jilly Gagnon
15. The Last Time We Were Us by Leah Kohen
16. Through to You by Lauren Barnholdt
17. All the Ugly and Wonderful Things by Bryn Greenwood
18. Just Friends by Tiffany Pitcock
19. Anne + Henry by Dawn Ius
20. The Witch’s Daughter by Paula Brackston
21. The Boy Most Likely To by Huntley Fitzpatrick
22. All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr
23. Pivot Point by Kasie West
24. Split Second by Kasie West
25. Fame, Fate, and the First Kiss by Kasie West
26. Maybe This Time by Kasie West
27. From Anxiety to Love by Corinne Zupko
28. What to Eat When by Michael F. Roizen &  Michael Crupain
29. The Kiss Quotient by Helen Hoang
30. Make Time by Jake Knapp & John Zeratsky
31. Evidence of the Affair by Taylor Jenkins Reid
32. Summer at Little Beach Street Bakery by Jenny Colgan
33. Wild Blue Wonder by Carlie Sorosiak
34. The City Baker's Guide to Country Living by Louise Miller
35. One True Loves by Taylor Jenkins Reid
36. Maybe in Another Life by Taylor Jenkins Reid
37. Creating True Prosperity by Shakti Gawain
38. Money, Manifestation & Miracles by Meriflor Toneatto
39. Creative Visualization by Shakti Gawain
40. Developing Intuition by Shakti Gawain

There are SO many more I'd like to read, but I set my goal at 40 books again this year because I really don't want too much pressure. I want this entire year to feel like sloooow, smooooth, naturally occurring ease. As much as possible, at least. So I'm being conservative.

And whatever I plan to read never quiiite goes according to plan. So we shall see.

I'd really like to read the Snow In Love anthology, The Hating Game, and Becoming to name just a few more. ;) Can't stop won't stop!!!

I've got a wide array of woo-woo, young adult, nonfiction, and adult fiction in there. All my greatest hits. I can't wait to get into it!!! I'm currently working through Crazy Rich Asians (though by the time this publishes I may be finished with it). I am SO excited to get to the movie for that one!

So, have you read any of these? Loved or hated any? Got any tips or high-fives to give me on any of these? Give me alllll your bookish thoughts, please! 

Have a great weekend, and a happy reading year!

See ya Monday...if you're not too busy reading books. ;)

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Wednesday, January 9, 2019

19 for 2019

19 for 2019: a short and sweet collection of realistic and fun goals for the new year | So last week, we chatted about resolutions and how it's totally completely cool to be chill in January.

2019 is more than just January, though, and I've got some things I wanna do.

Some big, some small, some silly, some milestone-y. And I loved my 18 for 2018 list. I did pretty darn good with it, really. So I'm looking at these 12 expansive months with the same lens, and I plotted out 19 awesome goals for 2019.

19 for 2019: a short and sweet collection of realistic and fun goals for the new year |

1. Organize the kid's papers and artwork.

I'm a documenter and I've been saving the kids art and school papers for years and they are scattered and unorganized. I want to get a good system going (like this and this) so they have things preserved and we don't have piles of sentimental papers all over the house. I already ordered the bins, so it's going down!

2. Start a daily yoga practice.

I've started this one, yay! I'm working my way through Yoga With Adriene's January challenge (and as the name suggests, I'm totally Dedicated!), and then if I can keep it up for maybe 5 days a week after that, I'll count it. An honest effort and a regular practice is my goal. Plus, I take classes once a week in person with the best instructor I could have ever asked for!

3. Sign up for piano lessons.

This one both scares and excites me. I've been wanting to learn how to play the piano for years and years - it's just such a beautiful instrument. But it's scary learning something like this as an adult - I know I'm going to open myself up to feeling dumb and untalented, but the prospect of being able to play a song for my kids really excites me!

4. Visit Lily Dale.

I wasn't able to pull this off in 2018, so I'd really like to plan ahead and make it happen in 2019! It's only an hour away from home, it's really crazy that I've never been!

5. Try Robinhood.

Have you heard of it? It's an app that was mentioned on a podcast I listen to and it's a wildly easy way to invest in the stock market. I will not be playing with large sums of money, but throwing a little bit into it here and there and seeing if anything grows can't hurt!

6. Schedule no-spend challenges.

I love-love-love the idea of month-long spending freezes, but looking at our calendars we have a birthday, vacation, or family gathering every single month. There's not an easy way to work around it will likely be 1 or 2 weeks at a time, maybe once per season.

7. Start every day with water.

I tried to set an Oz goal, but, for's not gonna happen. And it's way too hard for me to track. I don't like to waste precious time and willpower track my water intake. This is a habit I've worked hard to set, so I'd love to make it the entire year with water being the first thing to hit my stomach every single morning this year. So far so good!

8. Keep a regular cleaning/decluttering/domestic routine.

I'm trying so hard to keep my house and daily life more organized, so I'm hoping that very simply scheduled things will help me hold it all together. I assigned one thing to each day of the week to tackle in addition to the regular tasks of dishes, picking up the floors and table, and making meals. Monday is dusting, Tuesday is bathroom wipe down, Wednesday is Errands + cleaning out the fridge, Thursday is floors, Friday is the kitchen, Saturday is bedrooms, and Sunday is for laundry and prep for the new week.

9. Honor a weekly self-care day.

I'm not good at sticking to schedules and routines, even ones that are good for me, but I'm gonna shoot for one day a week where I do allthethings for myself. Right now I've got my eye on Thursdays and I'm plotting out what my self-care day will include. I hope to get this one off the ground soon!

My 19 little goals for 2019. |

10. Share our 3 H's at dinner every night.

At dinner, we go around the table and share our Hard Part and Highlight of the day, and our Hope for tomorrow. It opens up some good discussion, gets the kids thinking about gratitude, and helps them recall important things (which helps them with the writing at school, even.) We've already started this and we're loving it, so I want to remember to keep this going all year!

11. Sell off my Matilda Jane samples.

Um, well, I have some things to share about this soon, but...I have oodles of samples still that will do no good in my house (#nodaughtershere), and I need to unload them and give them happy homes! Not to mention, get some of my investment back. So I'm determined to start 2020 with no more leftover samples!

12. Get my heels on the ground in downdog.

After years of yoga, I still can't get my heels on the ground in downdog. My calves are wildly tight (always have been), and it's a struggle. I can wind myself into a pretzel (pretty much anything my hips are asked to do, they can), but my calves are wildly inflexible. I'd love to stretch them out. Even as I say this, I have my doubts that I can do it...not because I'm not confident in working with my body, but every body is different and capable of different things. My calf muscles might not be long enough. We shall see!

13. Change my political party.

When I registered to vote at 19 (there was no election the year I turned 18), I was very unsettled and unsure and I registered myself as undeclared. I prided myself on my flexibility and open-mindedness, but things have changed for me. And in NY (I lived in NC when I registered), you have to be affiliated with a party in order to vote in primary elections. I was basically voting on one side, anyway, and after the 2016 election I decided that it was time for me to be steadfast in my morals and bring both feet to stand with the party that aligns with those morals. I haven't done it yet, but need to before the primary election.

14. Plan a new family vacation.

We have traditional vacations every year, but we had SO much fun on our family trip to Toronto in 2017 (and we're not quite ready for another journey to Disney - we're waiting on the Star Wars area to be done!), so I want to plan another quick getaway in 2019.

15. Get our house on the market.

This is a big one! And not just because it means big things, but because it will take a lot of work to get to the point of listing our house! It's going to be a challenge....but we're determined.

16. Try 12 new instant pot recipes.

I wanted an Instant Pot for so long, and I finally got one for my birthday! I was amazed by it and love it for making hard boiled eggs......but I did not need this fancy contraption for eggs! lol I feel like even when I follow the directions meat always turns out dry, and there are SO many recipes out there that I get totally overwhelmed....and I just end up not using it. So I'm going to shoot for 1 new recipe a month!

17. Read at least 25 books off my TBR shelf (and at least 20 books from the library).

I have SO many unread books on shelves and in boxes around my house. Not only do I not want to move them (which I assume we'll be doing in the next year or so), it's just time for me to start working my way through them instead of getting totally distracted by library books!

18. Marathon the thank you, next movies or watch them on back-to-back nights.

Just because they are iconic and this song and its video are a couple of the best things ever made, I want to re-watch these fun movies and totally indulge in the whole thank you, next experience! When I accomplish this, I want to tackle an 80-90's movie challenge next. There's A LOT of iconic movies that I didn't see from back then because my mom wouldn't let me watch them!! lol

19. Find & practice 2 new hairstyles for my long hair.

My hair has 4 modes: down and curly, down and straightened, high pony tail, messy mom bun. The end. I'd like to have a few more things in my arsenal, but I never take the time to find something new and mess with it when I'm not rushing off somewhere in a hurry. Hopefully if I make time to play with it, I'll have some other "standard" hair modes to rely on.

Try choosing 19 attainable goals for your 2019 & see how it lights you up. |

Is it cool to have a bonus? 'Cause I do.

Bonus: Make $60 from my blog.

It's a low goal, I know. And I hope (hope hope hope) this doesn't come off like I'm saying "please pay me!" But bloggers sometimes blog as a sidehustle, yanno? It would be a dreamy dream for my blog to be my legit job, but after years of pushing and not feeling the results, I'm totally cool with it being a hobby. The problem is, it seems to get a little more expensive every year. And right now, I need to come up with $60 to pay off the basic costs of keeping this blog each year. That only works out to $5/month, so....I think it can be done. Wish me luck! :)

Okay so, I'm totally into this sort of thing and I love seeing other 19 for 2019 lists! I haven't spotted many of them yet (lots of 18 for 2018's out there, though!). If you have one, I'd LOVE to see it! Drop a link in the comments and I'll come stalk it. ;)

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Tuesday, January 1, 2019

It's Okay to Take It Easy (but here's some challenges anyway)

It's okay to take it easy in January! | Hi, 2019! How are ya.

Okay so super quick chat about New Year's Resolutions: let's not over do it, yeah?

I mean, I can't help myself...this brand new year makes me giddy with possibility, and I like to sort of focus where I'm headed. And I'm determined - DETERMINED, to make this the year when I finally get my sh*@ together.

Sh*@ together: not being late to absolutely everything, my house not in cluttery chaos at all times, not resorting to terrible for me convenience foods constantly and drinking more water than just what's in my morning coffee (and maybe skipping the afternoon coffee), committing more deeply to yoga, stabilizing my emotions, and not shrugging off self care just because it's another thing on the to do list.

So, yeah, I really wanna do all that right freakin' now.

But last year, in this energized January mode, Danielle LaPorte (author of The Desire Map) posted something on Instagram that really resonated with me. (Read it here.)

She basically said, it's totally cool to just keep on hibernating right now as nature intended and get to those big shiny goals later on. Go inside, be quiet, snuggle up, and charge up for all that booty-kicking you'll get to when the world defrosts.

Laid Back New Years Resolutions

You wanna know what's kind of crap, though? I already felt that way and I'd beat myself the heck up for it. I would be SO MAD at my inability to shove through my goals at a time when my body was like stooooop and let's snuggle up like we're suppoooosed toooo. It took a best selling author to tell me that's okay. Why do we need that? Permission to let sh*@ be okay without anyone else's input GRANTED.

(Omg I am so clueless. A few years ago I was like "I'm gonna wake up at 5:30am and work out every single day" and I started on New Year's Day. Four days later I was on my back sick and piiiiissed that my body failed me. HELLO it was telling me that my goal was bullsh*@ and it's totally fine to put your feet up in January. You can read the whole dumb saga in my Jan 2016 archive if you care to witness my failure, hahaha. GAH 3 years ago me was so dense! It's okay, we're learning, it's all good.)

So ya'll, my point (I lived in Charlotte for 5 years so I can say ya'll 5x a year).....

...don't run yourselves ragged trying to do it all this month. Unless you live somewhere like Charlotte or even further south than that where palm trees line your streets, then do whatever you want! Here in Buffalo, I'll be wearing my huge-as-hell fuzzy slippers and praising fluffy blankets while I tackle micro-goals and drink tea.

It's all good.

(It's Jan 1st and I almost used up a second ya'll already! <- that one doesn't count.)

Okay, okay, SO.

Micro-goals. To me, this means.....a lot of planning. Envisioning what's to come, knowing what my end-goals are, taking baby steps to get there. I mean I wanna do some BIG ish this year, including MOVE (ahh wish us luck) and tone my body in the sexy way yoga can. But I gotta start in simple, slow, habit forming ways.

So I found these challenges. Challenges where the guesswork has been taken out for me, and I will get sweet little emails sent to my inbox so I have hella-convenient links to click and support communities to access. They are FREEEEE (the best part), so there's zero budget concern, but full of great content. (Hashtag not sponsored or affiliated just want to get my sh*@ together and thought you might also like these.)

Just click the links if you wanna join me!

Dedicate - a 30 day yoga journey by Yoga with Adriene. Her videos are all free, all easily accessed on YouTube (Matt and I tee them up on the TV through our xbox for a bigger screen), and during this challenge you'll get emails every morning. There's also a calendar to follow along with, too. Her practices are anywhere from 7 minutes to 50 minutes (most of them fall in the 15-25 minute range), they are easy to do, and you can stay cozy in your own house for all of it. Also, she is witty and fun to watch.

Declutter like a Mother - a 30 day decluttering challenge by Allie Casazza. This one works in zones of your house (one per week for 4 weeks), and during that time your objective is to declutter in that zone for 30 minutes a day. There are bi-weekly emails, a FB community for support, and tips and tricks along the way. Matt and I have been decluttering like crazy (and donated 15 boxes and bags to Veterans in December) to get the ball rolling for our impending (hopeful) move so this will be crazy helpful. I can't wait to see what my house looks like after all this!

Focus on Finances - a month-long finance challenge from Fun Cheap or Free. So here's the deal...this is old. There's no new content, ongoing commitment, or Jan 2019 specific support group. HOWEVER, Jordan from FCorF is super-super fun to follow on Instagram, and her ideas are great. I'm going to edit this calendar (because we have a birthday in there and certain things don't work exactly for us), but her plan is a great jumping off point. I figure if I'm focusing internally with things like yoga and decluttering, saving money will be a natural, welcome side effect. Her ideas and guidance can only boost that. EDIT: I lied!! No I didn't, but the day after I scheduled this post Jordan re-vamped her site for 2019. She has monthly challenges and great simple tools to stay motivated and take baby steps. Click HERE for the updated version!

So that's it! That's my January and I'm coooool with it. (Ha, cool. January. Cold.)

I have some, ya know, sweeping goals for the whole year that I'll chat about soon, but this is how I'm getting started with all of it. Want to join me in any of it? I'd love to have buddies along for the ride.

And it might be kind of fun to see how I do. Will I stick with it, will I fall flat on my face, will I use up all my ya'll's before Spring? Time will tell!!!!

Whatever you're up to, HAPPY NEW YEAR, and I hope 2019 is your most luminous, buoyant, chill, kick-booty year yet!

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