Thursday, October 26, 2017

The Four Tendencies Book Review

Just so you know, my letterboard today contains "bleeped" profanity. In case that offends you, I wanted to give you a heads up. ;)


Over a year ago now, I wrote about Gretchen Rubin's Four Tendencies after reading her book, Better Than Before. Reading that book caused a life-changing shift in how I see myself and the people around me, and the same was true for everyone I shared it with. It just makes so. much. sense.

Better Than Before introduced these tendencies, but it focused more on habit setting in relation to them rather than going into too much depth. Even so, I felt pretty well-versed in the tendencies, as well as skilled in identifying which one a person fit within. When I heard she was going to be releasing a book all about The Four Tendencies, I couldn't wait to get my hands on it and maybe even learn a little more about myself in the process.


The first thing I noticed, is that Gretchen's view of her framework had expanded a little. Her ideas were a little more fluid - she discussed how the tendencies overlapped each other a little more, and even described the sub-tendencies that result.

As I read through the book, I underlined things and made notes near parts that really pertained to me. I scribbled a lot in the Questioner section and thought that I was maybe more Questioner than I realized.....until I got to the Rebel section and there's not a page I didn't put a mark on. I thought I was a Questioner that tipped Rebel (heavily)...but after reading I'm pretty sure I'm a Rebel that tips Questioner.  (If you're curious about what you might be, you can take a quick quiz right HERE!)

It was really interesting to get even more insight into why I do the things that I do - especially in the way I was able to tell Matt how to deal with some of my difficulties! And to have more clarity about my tendency was something I didn't expect. There was definitely a lot to learn - mostly about how to manipulate myself. ;)


Here's the thing - you need to read this. You do, really. (Unless you're a rebel, don't listen to me because I wouldn't listen to someone telling me what I need to do, either! haha)

This framework explains ourselves and our relationships with others in a way that clicks better than anything I've ever encountered. Plus, Gretchen writes in a very flowing, interesting way - so don't be fearful of dry nonfiction - this isn't that!

Read it! Or don't. Or your Mom told me to tell you to read it. Or you should really read this because it's full of lots of life's answers. (Okay, I think I covered you all.)

My favorite Rebel quote from a favorite Ariana Grande song..... ;)

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